Finding the Right Words
‘Comfort with the comfort with which you were comforted.’
My husband Dennis lay in the Intensive Care Unit at Temple University Hospital in Philadelphia. Surgery had led to his inclusion in the 10% who develop complications, leaving me both bewildered and overwhelmed. Day followed day with little improvement. I thought, ‘What if I lose him?’ and ‘This is really hard.’ I prayed. I read my Bible. And others shared God’s words of comfort.
Each time a brother or sister in the Lord called or sent a card with a verse on it, it became a blessed assignment for my day. These were the verses that I meditated on day and night. Certainly I could have found them myself; I have often been the one who shared verses with others. But my emotions were raw, my body was worn out with weeping, and my mind was occasionally confused. The blessed assignment for the day directed my soul to a specific passage of Scripture which the Holy Spirit then used to comfort me. It employed my mind, leaving no idle room for despair. It assured me that we were not alone, for others cared about us. All of this infused me with strength.
My mother searched for a suitable card and sent one to me that included her favourite Psalm 46. It arrived during a difficult time and I carried it around with me for several days. When worry began, I read it. When despair appeared, I read it. When fear tried to strangle, I read it. God was my refuge and strength, a very present help in my trouble. I was comforted and I lost the fear. When it returned again, I prayed Psalm 46 once again.
During the 29 days that Dennis was hospitalized, I met others who came quite frequently to the ICU waiting room. Three women feared for the lives of their sons. Two men were there often to visit their wives, Betty and Nina. I didn’t know anyone’s background or beliefs, but at times I offered to read my card to them and to pray. God’s Word does not go out in vain, and the Holy Spirit used those instances as he would. One evening I read Psalm 46 with Betty’s family as she lay dying in the next room. Nina’s husband invited me to come daily to read the Bible, pray, and sing to her. Nina had been in ICU for over 3 months, and she was eager to know the Lord. We both enjoyed the 20-minute visits each time I went to see Dennis.
The Lord tells us in 2 Cor. 1:3-4:
Blessed be the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of mercies and God of all comfort, who comforts us in all our affliction so that we will be able to comfort those who are in any affliction with the comfort with which we ourselves are comforted by God. (NASB)
Never before were these words so clear to me. I was weak and gained strength and then shared that strength with others.
When our 12-year-old daughter Amy was recently hospitalized with appendicitis (again with complications), God’s people helped and shared Scripture. We wrote the verses on construction paper and taped them to a message board on the wall. Amy found them very helpful, and so did I. These were for our own encouragement, but they were also read by numerous staff members.
Many people wonder what to do to encourage someone in difficult times. Some hesitate, afraid to err, or certain that ‘others have it covered.’ Sometimes we are just so busy with our own schedules and goals that we don’t make the time to encourage. John Calvin says in his excellent Golden Booklet of the True Christian Life:
V. We should seek the good of other believers.
How extremely difficult it is for you dutifully to seek the advantage of your neighbour, unless you quit all selfish considerations and almost forget yourself. How can you perform the duties which Paul teaches to be works of love, unless you renounce yourself and devote yourself wholly to others? (see 1 Cor. 13).
If this be all that is demanded, that we do not seek our own, yet we must not exert little pressure on our own nature which is so strongly inclined to love self exclusively and does not easily permit us to neglect self and our own affairs. Let us rather seek the profit of others, and even voluntarily give up our rights for the sake of others.
Scripture urges and warns us that whatever favours we may have obtained from the Lord, we have received them as a trust on condition that they should be applied to the common benefit of the church.
Who do you know in your church, family, or neighbourhood that is undergoing trials right now? Calvin continues:
Let this be our rule for goodwill and helpfulness, that whenever we are able to assist others we should behave as stewards who must some day give an account of ourselves . . . For we must not first of all try to promote the good of others by seeking our own, but we must prefer the profit of others.
Using some time, paper, ink, and perhaps a stamp, you will be, as an old prayer states, ‘an instrument of God’s peace.’ Or, you might bless someone via a phone call or a visit. Let us go and ‘comfort with the comfort with which we have been comforted by God.’
Sharon L. Bratcher, a former English teacher, is a writer who has contributed to Reformed Perspective and other magazines. A wife, mother of six, and grandmother of 4, Sharon is a member of Providence Orthodox Presbyterian Church in Southfield, MI. For information on her book Soup and Buns: Nourishment from God’s Word for Your Daily Struggles, please contact firstname.lastname@example.org.
The Resurrection: What If It Is Not True? What If It Is? April 23, 2019
It is worth asking the question: What difference does it make to believe in the resurrection of Christ, as opposed to not believing it? Death is clearly the great reality and the great leveller of life. Fools die and wise men die — as do kings and paupers, celebrities and nonentities. Princess Diana dies, and so too Kerry Packer […]
Neglected Aspects of the Cross April 19, 2019
No doctrine has received greater attention than the Atonement. And yet, comparing the studies of the present with those of the past, and the emphases of the Bible with those of its interpreters, one begins to suspect that several aspects of the doctrine are not receiving the attention they deserve. Its Horror This is true, […]